The FOCCUS is **not **a test, it’s an instrument. The instrument does not have right or wrong answers. Being honest is essential in whether or. We’re taking the Foccuss prep test this Saturday and I’m really nervous! Should I be?! Help!. I took the foccus test and based on the questions, since there aren’t like “wrong answers,” because a lot of them are like “we have discussed,” or “I am.

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I do hope that at the very least, the content of the test will remind you and your fiance of things that might need to be discussed! We went over our results with our mentor couple.

Some we just read the question wrong. Going into the test questionnaire, I know that Em was a little nervous.

JackieDe 8 years ago Wedding: Ours was a scantron-style answer sheet, so they just feed it into the machine. Instead of relying on the FOCCUS test, I would recommend getting one of those ” questions for couples before they get married” books and going through it to give you areas for discussion.

To add my 2 cents, I was beat down with catholism my whole life also. June I have zero knowledge of the Catholic church, but I wanted to just give a comment here as well from my experience in pre-marital counseling — my pastor came right out and said that he did NOT like marrying young people! I think our relationship is pretty good, focus there are areas we need to talk about more. It was kind of fascinating to see the mix of the mundane and the profound. DH is Catholic, I am not. Get the best wedding inspiration, advice, and more from Weddingbee.


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I sometimes feel that this may not be the right person for me to marry. Learn more about our wedding prep here: We should compare scores!

After the initial reaction, I realized that this was just a starting point for discussion and that we really should talk through the issues. We went over questions we disagreed on. I never had religion shoved down my throat but in DH’s family, it’s expected that you are Catholic and go to church.

And I dont understand the whole secrecy about this test. My future spouse and I have talked about our plans for when we want kids. I am worried that my future spouse will expect me to perform sexual acts that make me uncomfortable. You can’t really fail it so even if you have areas that are a flag for concern this means that these are areas you need to working on together as a couple.

A lot of it was about sharing space, learning argument styles, when the partner needs alone time, etc. The survey went from 1 will we have children 2 how will we spend our money to 3 will there be a television in the bedroom.

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We fovcus in agreement about how we will make financial decisions between us. When I took it, it was a long test of questions regarding your relationship and your future marriage.

So, answer yes to raising your kids catholic and all that other jazz. There were lots of questions in there and they were divided into sections. August 19, at question Other things we had a short discussion about and our mentor couple gave us some guidance. Bibliophile is right – read queshions. You also only know what you hear: I don’t expect them to change their beliefs to match mine, so they should not expect me to change to match theirs.


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My family goes to church etc, but if one sunday it doens’t happen, no big deal. Some of the items are worded in ways to really make you think about what they are saying. Each of the five questionnaires – Marriage as a Process, Intimacy, Compatibility, Communication and Commitment – are answered independently by the married couple. If not, questoins we facilitate having them so that any problems are solved now rather than becoming issues during the marriage.


I was asked to promise we wouldn’t share the test with anyone. Essentially I am just the kind of person who will not be forced into anything, and I didn’t let getting married in a Catholic church make me compromise my beliefs, except that one little question I answered during the ceremony.

I would be surprised if all or whatever questions of you and FI’s matched quesyions, but the next steps fofcus you sit down with our priest in our case, I dunno if that’s everywhere but you discuss the questions.